Wisdom for Foundations

Invest, Include, Invite

By on June 8, 2017

Life is Relationships

When the dust settles, the bests thing in life are really our friends, family, and workmates—our relationships. These aspects of life are what make it so rich. It is someone to rejoice with when things are going well and someone to cry with when things go poorly. While most agree with the above statement, making relationships seems harder in 2017 than in any time in history. Let’s take a look at some simple steps toward building healthy relationships.


Not Automatic

Relationship building is far from automatic. While it’s not difficult, it does involve a specific process that helps us break the ice, become acquainted, and develop meaningful friendships. These three steps: Include, Invest, and Invite are something that everyone can do regardless of our race, gender, social status, education, etc. They are simply common sense ways to make healthy, vibrant relationships.


Learning to Include

The first of these, include, is probably the easiest. It simply means when you’re having a picnic, going to the park, doing things in your backyard, playing with the kids, or sitting by the fire, include others in your neighborhood or friendship circle. You’ll be amazed how easy it is to bring others into what you’re doing. People who are included quickly become good friends because it’s an opportunity to share your lives in a low-pressure, informal setting.


Learning to Invest

While a bit more challenging than including, invest comes naturally when your heart makes it a priority. Di and I have been investing in our neighborhood for years. Some summers we have pool parties. Sometimes at Christmas we do a chili and cookie party for our neighborhood. Investing means we serve them by bringing them into our world, sometimes we invite them to our home and sometimes we simply go to theirs and help them with a task in the yard or around the house. Investing makes a big difference when we get to the third aspect.


Learning to Invite

When you have included and invested in people, the invitation is quite simple. The first two steps help us overcome the shyness that is developing in our society about inviting people. Most surveys show that people gladly accept invitations to most events such as church, special programs, small groups if they are asked. Asking/inviting is a natural progression of including and inviting. Try it—you’ll be surprised how well people respond.

Perfect Time

Summer is the perfect time to de these three activities. People are out and about, opened invitations, and actually looking for things to do in the neighborhood. Make a game plan now as to how you will use the next three months to influence the part of the world in which you live.


Our Ultimate Goal

Of course we want to have healthy relationships with our friends, relatives and work mates. Our ultimate goal is that we can share the wonderful life we have in Jesus Christ with them. If your neighbors are already believers, join with them in inviting, including, and investing in the neighborhood. We want to see the entire world experience the righteousness, peace, and joy of the Kingdom of God through the Holy Spirit.

We want to see the entire world experience the righteousness, peace, and joy of the Kingdom of God through the Holy Spirit.


Where to Invite

After you’ve invited those around you to your home or to a special social event, be brave and invite them to your small group, a weekend service, or a special event happening at the church. Once you see these three steps begin to happen, you’ll do it for the rest of your life. May you be blessed beyond your imagination as you pursue this goal.



Hi and welcome! I'm Happy. My wife Dianne and I are the founders of the Vineyard Church of Central Illinois, a multi-site church with 6 campus locations. Over the last 30+ years, I have learned alot about leadership in life and leading a church. I have made some mistakes and had some successes. I look forward to sharing the wisdom I have learned with you. I strive everyday to see Jesus as bigger, better, and more beautiful. And I am wholeheartedly committed to the ministry Jesus promised his followers in John 14:12: to be able to do the same and greater works through the power of the Holy Spirit.

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